At the prelude stage, no one knows for sure whether the case will end with an orgasm. And since there is no one hundred percent guarantee, is it worth contacting at all? Another important question fits into the scope of the topic: if you are already tired and there is still no orgasm, is it worth it to persist or is it better to put up with the meaninglessness of what is happening?

In an ideal world, for the successful completion of sexual intercourse, several key factors must coincide: desire, pleasant atmosphere, stable hormonal background, emotional state, and at least the willingness of a partner to take care not only about his orgasm. But, unfortunately, we do not live in a fairy tale, our man is not always a prince on a white horse, and light on wedges did not converge on orgasms. In real life, we have the following figures: only 20% of all women regularly experience an orgasm without additional stimulation of the clitoris. The statistics, of course, are disappointing, but this is not a reason to be upset. Good sex is wonderful, and precisely because its “goodness” is not judged by the presence or absence of an orgasm. Here are five reasons why having sex is good on its own:   

This is a great charge.

During intense sex, the body receives a sufficient dose of activity and stress. The woman’s body is more than adapted to such a shake, so sex puts the body in tone much better than visiting an elite gym. Of course, this will not replace swimming or the bench press, but, for example, a few minutes of active movements in the Cowgirl position will strengthen the hips and buttocks, and a medium-long sexual intercourse will help burn about 70 kilocalories (approximately as much is contained in one chocolate candy). At the same time, the pleasure of the process is definitely no less than on simulators. Well, the result is next time …  

Sex is love

This is one way to unleash your fantasies.

The lack of orgasm is not a reason to refuse sex and the great diversity of its scenarios.

You can practice light BDSM, role-playing games, use sex toys or give preference to erotic massage. Perhaps the reason for the lack of orgasm is the lack of a long foreplay, but this also happens: the couple practices sex in one or several poses for a very long time, does not make a difference in intimate life, and for orgasm a woman needs just a peppercorn in the form of, for example, light spanking or unusual position. Sex is a great reason to explore your sexuality, share fantasies with a partner, find common interests and bring them to life.

This is an opportunity to show love

The ability to give a partner sexual pleasure or even an orgasm is highly valued and is perceived as an act of manifestation of love and care. When a partner knows that they are ready to take time, give pleasure, take care of his sexuality, he feels safer, more confident and generally better, which, of course, has a positive effect on the quality of intimate life.

Just sex

It promotes hormone production.

Hormones that positively affect the body, well-being and brain function are secreted not only during orgasm, but throughout the entire intercourse.

For example, adrenaline is released in women in a situation close to orgasm. The body responds to the release of adrenaline into the blood by inspiration and a state close to euphoria. Oxytocin – the well-known hormone responsible for the affection of partners to each other – is released not only in the process of intimacy, but also during kisses, hugs and even joint sports. Another important hormone is serotonin, or, as it is also called, the hormone of joy. It is present in excess in the blood when a person is in high spirits. Active production of serotonin contributes to sexual arousal. With a low concentration of this hormone in the blood, a person is in suppressed feelings, and his sexual desires are underestimated.

It’s just sex

And often we do it only because we want intimacy, and not chase an orgasm. In the end, if you reduce sex only to its denouement and engage in it exclusively for the enchanting end, you can cool your partner emotionally: he will begin to perceive himself as an object to satisfy your needs. It will be most correct to perceive sex as a way to establish a more intimate contact with a partner, to get closer emotionally and physically, to enjoy the process of unity.

And yet, where is the orgasm?

Orgasm is, of course, good, and, fortunately, it is not inaccessible. Perhaps the reason for the lack of orgasm lies in the weakness of the intimate muscles, self-doubt and inability to focus on the process (a woman’s brain almost always works in parallel mode, and during sex she is able to think about completely extraneous things). Recent studies by sexologists prove that about 90% of women are able to experience orgasm. Therefore, you should start with yourself: work with your erogenous zones, engage in strengthening the muscles of the pelvic floor, talk with a partner, start eating right and lead an active lifestyle. And the most important thing is to enjoy sex, even if it does not yet lead to guaranteed discharge.